ˈbʌtər ˈsʌmwʌn ʌp
Relationships
informal
intermediate
- Literally:
- To spread butter on a person
What does "butter someone up" mean?
- To flatter someone to gain favor or an advantage
- To be excessively nice to someone with an ulterior motive
Examples
- He's buttering up the boss hoping for a promotion.
- Don't try to butter me up—I know what you're after.
- She buttered up her parents before asking for money.
Origin
Ancient Indian tradition of throwing balls of clarified butter (ghee) at statues of gods to seek favor. The practice extended metaphorically to flattering people. Used in English since the early 19th century.
How to use it
Informal expression that implies insincerity. Often used to describe obvious manipulation attempts.
Similar expressions
flatter
sweet-talk
suck up to
soft-soap
Opposites
criticize
be honest with
Related idioms
- break the ice
To initiate conversation in an awkward social situation
- see eye to eye
To agree with someone completely
- head over heels
Completely and deeply in love
- pull someone's leg
To tease or joke with someone
- cut someone some slack
To be less strict or demanding with someone
- tie the knot
To get married
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